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What does your dressing say about you?

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The recent outcry of the government of Cameroon about the indecent ways young men and women dress has brought up ethical issues about this topic. Not less than three ministers came out to publicly denounce this habit now prevalent among our young men and women.

There are a number of reasons that push young people to dress this way. First, is the aim to imitate American entertainment stars. Girls dress in “miniskirts” and tight fitting trousers called “coulants” in order to resemble Holywood and Nolywood stars. The guys dress in sagging pants so as to look like 50 cents, Usher… etc. Secondly, a lot of women dress in clothes that expose their breast , butocks, tattoos, and thighs in order to seduce men. Finally, there are some who are ignorant of good dressing ethics and just copy their friends or peers.

This indecent dressing has not spared the churches. A lot of pastors have been complaining lately the way young girls dress in church. This has in turn pushed young women to have two dressing codes; one when they go to church and another when they are at home. Many of them wear gowns when they come to church and the sexy dresses when at home.

The government has started addressing this issue. They rolled out a sensibilisation campaign by radio and television and hope to start the repressive phase soon. Not only would women who dress indecently be locked up but they could also face a prison sentence. They do not rule out banning these dresses althogether. What do you think of the dresses of our young men and women nowadays? Write in the comments below.

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How to fire up your faith.

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A lot of people believe that as soon as they give their lives to Christ, then they are born again and everything is finsihed in their christian lives. Giving your life to Christ is the beginning of a long journey that has bumps and potholes on the way. One of the ways to resist the devil and guide against backsliding is through faith. (Ephesians 6:16) . The bible says we all have a measure of faith. However, this faith has to be nurtured for it to grow otherwise it dies down.( mark 9:24) . Here are a few ways you can fire up your faith :

1) By regularly attending church services.
You would only have faith by hearing the word of God.(Romans 10:17). The only place you would never get tired of hearing the word of God is in church. Try to make it a duty to attend all church services. At best, join a service unit like ushers, choir that would compel you to attend church services.

2) By studying the word of God.
So, you are a christian and you do not have a bible. How can this be? Invest in a good bible. Read it daily at least 3 pages for a start. More as you continue your christian walk. The devil is only afraid of Christians who know the word of God. He would not even attempt to stop at their doorstep. You need to renew your mind everyday by reading your bible so as to chase away old thoughts and replace them with the word of God.

3) Prayers.
The first sign that your faith has gone down is when you cannot pray or don’t pray enough. Learn to spend time with God daily by praying to him. Prayers is a means that we communicate with God and we hear from him. Jesus cautioned his disciples to pray lest they fall into temptation. (Mathew 14:38) . Are you praying?

4) By singing praises and worship.
It amazed me how a lot of Christians close their mouths. Open your mouth and declare scripture instead staying quiet. I heard this one from Prophet Kevin Nuduba, a preacher based in kumba, Cameroon. Paul and Silas story is a good illustration of the power of praise and worship.( Acts 16:16). After they were locked up for saving a fortune teller woman, they started off praying but later they switched to praise and worship at midnight and the prison gates crumpled liberating them. Learn to sing praises and worship to the Lord whether in your house, in your car, at work, in your bathroom and kitchen.

5) The fear of the Lord.
You must always have the fear of the Lord with you at all times. As soon as you stop fearing the Lord, sins takes root in your life. Joseph could only avoid the temptation of sleeping with Portiphar’s wife because he feared the Lord. He didn’t want to displace his master. ( Genesis 31:1-3)

These are a few tips of how you can revive your faith. Do you know of any i omitted? Register them in the comments below.

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Should a woman’s tribe keep you from marrying her?

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In Cameroon and Africa in general, there are several tribes. Cameroon alone has about 234 clans speaking different dialects. Though this can be seen as a diversity in language and culture, it can get in the way of a man getting married to a woman. Recently, i was chatting with a lady and she told me there was a pastor who wanted to marry her. However, the pastor’s family did not like women from her tribe because they were thought of as being promiscuous. She bemoaned why something as little as her tribe of origin could keep her from getting married to her fiance.

A friend told me recently that he was wooing a woman and when he mentioned his tribe, the woman shouted and he sought to find out what was wrong. The woman said guys from her tribe are notoriously rough and mistreat women. There are many such stories like this of tribe keeping people from living together. What surprises me is that the same woman you are afraid to marry because pf her tribe somebody else is enjoying her with no problem.

Should a man or woman’s tribe be so much an issue when marriage is concerned? My answer would be yes and no. Yes,because when it impedes the happiness of the couple, then there is no need for the two to live together. No, because i think a lot of people generalize too much. The fact that your friend’s husband mistreat her doesn’t mean that if you marry a man from the same tribe, he would mistreat you too. People are different. Stop generalizing and give the man or woman a chance.

What do you think about this topic? Are there women or men from some tribes you cannot marry?

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Which would you marry? A woman with or without kids?

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There is a lot of controversy among men about the best woman to get married to – with or without kids? Most men prefer one or the other because of one reason or another.

Those who prefer a woman with kids have number of reasons to buttress their point. They say a woman who has one or more kids before marriage proves that she can still have more. Out of Christians circles, some men insist on living with their fiances a couples of years and having kids before they can make up their minds to get married.

For those who prefer a woman without kids, they say it is a proof the girl is not promiscuous. In addition, they say they do not want to have kids with several fathers. They equally point to the fact that a woman with kids is double load for them because they have to take care of both the mother and the kid(s) even though they are not the biological father of the child.

Whatever your choice, we should all understand that children are a gift from God and that you receive the favour of God when you get married. (Proverbs 18:22) Which would you prefer? A woman with or without kids? Write your comments below.

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Are you adding value to your life?

Have you ever gone to the market without a grocery list and you found out you bought something you did not need? In the movie, “i think i love my wife” by Chris Rock, he goes out shoping and brings back home a green shirt. His wife then ask him how he could bring home a green shirt when he doesn’t like the green colour. He responds that he just saw it and he thaught it was nice and so he bought it. The truth is that the sales attendant in the shop persuaded him to buy it though he did not need a shirt not to talk of a green one. Similarly, in life there are a lot of distractions and if you do not stay focused, you would find time slipping by without you achieving anything. The following are ways you can add value to your life and get that promotion you are looking for or that job you seek or that business you have always wanted to start.

1) Get further education.

When Arnold Shwarnegger, the film actor, arrived the USA from Austria,he brought along just a small bag with a few clothes inside. He later started having film roles and making money but he knew he had a problem. He had never gone far in school. He registered in university and got a BSc in Accounting that later made it difficult for his accountants to cheat him out of his hard earned money. What are you waiting? Go in for further education now.

2) Learn a new language.

Bernard Njome ia a Cameroonian businessman who goes to China to buy goods. He realised that because he does not speak chinese, he hardly gets any favours from his chinese partners. He decides to study the language and to his amazement, the reception he gets from the chinese is different when he speaks their language. Equally, you make yourself more employable by speaking several languages.

3) Take an apprenticeship.

While studying in Denmark, i decided to take a carpentry apprenticeship though i never knew what i would use it for. Toom my homeday, i can do most wood work in my home and save some money.

4) Learn to play an instrument.

You are a singer or film actor and you have some spare time in your hands, why not learn to play the guitar or some other instrument.

5) Take an internship.

If you graduated from university and you can’t find work, why not accept to work for free by taking an internship in a company. It would help you extend your networks and showcase your talents. You mighy eventually be recruited by that company.

These are just a few ways you can add value to your life. Which other ones do you know that i did not include here? Write in the comments below. Editor’s Note: Entrepreneur Richard Branson regularly shares his business experience and advice with readers. Ask him a question and your query might be the inspiration for a future column.

Q: I’m from Pakistan, where venture capital funding is not yet readily available. How can entrepreneurs here ensure cash flow in a startup’s early days and pay salaries to employees? What are the top three building blocks needed for entrepreneurs to transform a startup into a sustainable organization? –Ibraheem Ahmad

After seeing so many tech startups rocket to billion-dollar buyouts so quickly in the past few years, some new entrepreneurs might mistakenly think that starting a business is an explosive sprint that ends quickly. In reality, it’s an endurance race that only a few survive: According to Bloomberg, 8 out of 10 companies fail within 18 months of opening for business.

There is no hard and fast rule that distinguishes the two businesses in 10 that survive from those that fail: Business-threatening challenges can pop up at any moment, no matter what you do. However, one of the best ways to protect your enterprise is to make choices with the long term in mind. Here are some tips on three areas where your decisions will make a difference for years to come.

1. Choose Your Clients Carefully When you’re launching your startup, it may sometimes be tempting to take orders or make deals that you can’t afford to fulfill in hopes of gaining clients. This is almost always a mistake. If your business grows too fast, you’ll likely end up producing an inferior product or service and disappointing those customers — and if you’re unlucky, the entire enterprise will then fall flat.

It may be difficult to take some time out in those first hectic days of launching your business, but before you sign any deal, you must consider the proposal carefully, keeping the bigger picture in mind. Sometimes you may need to pass on an order for the good of a fledgling enterprise. You might lose a little business, but it’s better to focus on building steady growth rather than on gaining quick wins; this is how we’ve been building the Virgin Group for more than 40 years.

The No. 1 killer of startups is cash-flow problems, so as you review any new deals, be sure to think about how payments should work. A common issue smaller businesses face is late payments from big corporations, so be sure that you’re clear about payment terms before you sign any agreement. Don’t be afraid to ask for part of the payment up front, if that’s what the health of your enterprise requires.

When you start delivering your productor service, send your invoices promptly as agreed and keep close watch on payments. If you run into problems, be honest with your own suppliers about the difficulties — they may be willing to wait until you are paid so that they can keep your business.

2. Choose Your Employees Wisely Rather than hiring staff you can’t afford, start small — I began one of my first businesses, Student magazine, from a telephone box with an idea and 300 pounds. Doing all the work by yourself may be difficult, but it will also help you to explore your idea’s strengths and weaknesses more quickly.

When you do have funds to bring in employees, ensure that they understand and buy into the purpose of your business. This will motivate them to go the extra mile to make it a success. (I have written more about how to hire in other columns — for more, please take a look.)

3. Find a Mentor When we launched Virgin Atlantic, my mentor was the great Freddie Laker, the founder of Laker Airways. British Airways muscled his business out of the market long before we came along, and his advice was invaluable in helping me to establish a successful airline, to British Airways’ dismay.

He was the best sort of mentor: an entrepreneur whose business had been in the same sector, so he could warn me when I was about to make a mistake. And as he reminded me, if you do make a mistake, all is not lost; it’s how you learn from such experiences that matters.

If you are having trouble finding a mentor, websites like Eventbrite can be useful. You are likely to meet potential mentors at entrepreneur meetups and other gatherings; it is often surprising how willing entrepreneurs can be to help each other. Whether you are based in Pakistan or Peckham, Portland or Peru, we are all part of the same community.

Ibraheem, good luck with your startup! Whichever industry you decide to enter, don’t overlook the possibility of reaching potential customers online, since Pakistan has so many mobile customers. Now go for it!

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Readers are leaders.

With so much wisdom to be gained in reading books, it is amazing to realise that very few Cameroonians actually read. Most of us, as soon as we finish school, throw away our books and never open them again. It is often said that if you put a book in a bottle of beer, a cameroonian would see it but if you put it anywhere else, it remains unnoticed.

Despite the seeming non chalence of Cameroonians towards reading, there is a lot of wisdom in books. Infact, i can predict what you would become in five years time by the books you read and the friends you frequent. You would hardly find the president of America drunk but you would most probably find him with a book. And this can be noticed by the way he speaks and acts.

Before the start of his ministry, Jesus spent a lot of time in the synagogue with the scribes and the teachers of the law. Just as the saying says iron sharpens iron, that is how he learned the sciptures from more knowledgeable people than him.

It is surprising to notice that even today very few Cameroonians actually read. Some people attribute it to a lack of the reading culture while others say it is because of the lack of librairies and books in the few available ones. By reading, we are exposed to great minds around the world that we would otherwise not contact except through books. In addition, we acquire new ideas and methods that can be crucial to our projects. I do not mean by reading textbooks but books that are not within the curriculum.

Friends, if you want to excel in your field of work no matter which one then read. Read as widely as possible. Only those who educate themselves get promoted, become great leaders and are experts in their respective fields. No investment is as worthwhile as the one you do in enligthening the mind.

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