Dating can be defined as a form of romantic courtship between two individuals. Courtship is a man seeking the affections of a woman with the intention of getting married to her. Are Christian brothers and sisters allowed to date? I have been asked this question over and over again by people wishing to know whether it is allowed for them to date a Christian brother or sister.
If by dating you are seeking the affection of a woman with the intention of getting married to her then you are in the right path. If you date with the intention of sleeping with the woman, then you are on the wrong path. This is fornication which is greatly denounced in the bible. The bible says in
1 Corinthians 6:17 that we should flee fornication. Every sin that a man does is without the body; but he that commits fornication sins against his own body.
In 1 Thessalonians 4:3 the bible says “For this the will of the Lord even your sanctification that all of you should abstain from fornication.
Fornication is voluntary sexual intercourse between persons not married to each other. We should flee away from fornication as much as we can. Not only should we avoid fornication itself but everything that leads to fornication should be shunned. Things like kissing; touching and cuddling should be avoided by Christian’s brothers and sisters who are not married to each other.
I know there are some Christian brothers and sister who are in a relationship and even sleep with each other. Yet they call themselves born again Christians. Whatever reason that might compel you to be living with a person and even having sex, today is the day to stop and start following the plan of God in your life. If you are a woman and you thing that by sleeping with a man before marriage he would get married to you, you are deceiving yourself. Only commit your body to this man the day both of you get married. By making him to wait, you would know whether he is in for a serious relationship or not.
So it is perfectly normal for Christian brothers and sisters to be friends but anything more than that should be with the intention of getting married and starting a family. Any sexual intercourse or fore play should be avoided during courtship.